I’m writing this because something happened that I knew would. I’m not mentioning the person’s name because it isn’t my thing, but unfortunately this person’s actions have sent me into rant mode. Call it the straw that broke the camel’s back.
A little while ago I switched off posting on my Facebook wall because I was sick to death of every morning having to clean other people’s promo off it. As in, around 10-15 promo drops while I slept and God knows how many throughout the day. I KNOW writers need to promo, but there’s a time and place for it. Honestly, imagine mine and other people’s walls as our homes, right? Would you walk up to someone’s house, slap a poster on the outside of it telling the world you have a book out, then walk away? Would you knock on the door under the guise that you’ve knocked to shoot the shit, catch up on the latest news with the house owner, letting them think you CARE about them, slap a poster in their face then walk away?
No. You wouldn’t. It would be rude, wouldn’t it? You’d be embarrassed when the house owner told you to take that damn poster off my house, you cheeky sod, and don’t knock on my door again! You’d risk being seen as a complete pig. So why is it acceptable to some to do this on Facebook?
This is utter rudeness. Some people might leave that shooting-the-shit comment along with the blatant promo on their wall because it would seem churlish to remove it when it had a nice sentiment on it, but me? Hell no! I take them OFF. It smacks of the nice sentiment only being written as an excuse to drop promo on the end of it.
Now, I only switched my wall back on this morning so that people in my family who don’t live with me and those friends who don’t slap their stuff on my wall could have the opportunity to wish me a happy birthday tomorrow. I knew when I switched it on that by the end of today someone would drop promo. Already I’ve changed what I want to do in my life by totally switching my wall off, and that annoys me because there are family and friends out there who don’t have the opportunity to leave me messages because of other people’s rudeness. Other people's actions affecting my life.
Do I switch my wall back off now, forcing those who want to speak to me tomorrow to send a note through PM? I shouldn’t have to. My wall should be respected.
I very rarely get arsey, but this kind of thing really does get on my nerves. You promo on your own walls, and when it comes up on the newsfeed, if it catches my eye and I go and buy your book, excellent. I've done this several times. I shouldn’t feel forced into reading stuff I don’t want to read; the people who visit my wall shouldn’t have to see link after link of book promos.
Have some manners!
Now, I just saw my fab friend Rhonda Helms posted on my wall. She said something nice, and THIS is what my wall is for—to connect with friends and family, for them to be able to say stuff they wouldn’t use a PM to say. I’ve denied myself this kind of thing—other people’s actions again. I’m missing out on nice conversation, and to be honest, with my time limited where I can’t natter on emails very often, catching up on my wall is brilliant for me.
D’you know what? It really does stink. I would never dream of dropping links on people’s walls. It just isn’t done in my world.
Another thing that bugs me is getting friend requests from people then as soon as you accept them they slap you with promo. With my wall switched off, those promos came via PM, and every one of them is deleted once I see what's going on. In future, anyone who adds me just to show off their book is going to be deleted from my list. Those in the past lost a sale the minute they promo’d. I won't buy one of their books EVER, just because they were rude like that. Those people clearly don’t want to be my friend, they just want to either expand their friend list or try and get me to buy their book.
Now, I have nearly 5K people on my friend list. I don’t know many of them—those I added right at the beginning were people I wanted to add, people I was interested in. Since then, those added have been people who added me. I may not comment much on your walls, but I read every single status at some point in my day—mainly mornings and evenings. I might not comment, but I do read because I’m interested in what you have to say. People post things that make me laugh or smile, cheer me up on days I might feel a bit poo. I really don’t want to have to sift through everyone and remove those who have offended me with promo in the past, but if it continues, I will. You’re taking up a slot in my friend list that people who actually want to KNOW me in some way will miss out on when that hideous 5K is reached and they try to connect and can't.